How to Choose the Right Instrument for Your Child

The music world is extensive, diverse and inclusive. It accepts people from all walks of life regardless of their age, gender, race or beliefs. That being said, we should try teaching our children how to play music instruments at an early age.

Let’s take an example of the famous violinist Itzhak Perlman. Hailed by some as the best violinist in the world, he showed interest in the violin at the tender age of 3. He was however regarded as not old enough and had to teach himself how to play using a self-made toy violin. Eventually, his passion got him far.

A point often overlooked, is the positive influence music has on a child’s development. It helps them develop academically, physically and socially. Therefore, when coupled with other areas of education, it can help shape your child’s future. Now the big question is; which is the most suitable instrument for them? That should not worry you because today we are going to look at how to choose the right music instrument for your children.


Age is a very important factor to consider when choosing a musical instrument for your child because as children grow, they become physically strong and tall. You don’t want to buy your child a music instrument that is too small or one he/she can’t even lift. You will need to assess your child’s strength and height before choosing an instrument for them. Some instruments for example the likes of tuba and cello may be too heavy for your child. A lighter instrument helps your child maintain the right posture and is unlikely to cause them shoulder and back pains.

Height is also something that comes with age. Despite the fact that most musical instruments these days are customized for people of all ages, some may still be too big for your child to play. Some of the best musical instruments for toddlers include: the piano, harmonica, drum and xylophone.


Music is a form of expression. The instrument you choose for your child should be one which embodies their character. A child who is introverted would love playing the piano because they do not need to be in a band. If your child is very social and loves attention, then you should pick an instrument that will help them express that. Some of the best instruments for such children are: Flutes, violins, clarinets, trumpets and electric guitars. The fact that most of these instruments are played in a group makes them more ideal for such children.


Sound builds interest as so you need to pick an instrument that produces a sound your child loves. We have to accept that our children may not appreciate the sound every musical instrument produces. If they don’t like the sound they will not play the instrument. Music is meant to make people happy so would you not want the same for your child? If they do not like how a flute sounds then don’t buy them a flute.

You need to find something they love and that can be done by trying out the musical instruments with them or even showing them clips of other children playing certain instruments.

Popularity and Social Status

The piano, violin and guitar are some of the most popular musical instruments in the world. Your child may want to play such instruments because most of their friends play them and so it would make them look cool. That, therefore, elevates there social status. If your child feels so then put that into consideration and buy them such instruments. For those whose children like to be unique then finding uncommon and less played musical instruments such as viola and bassoon may be the best decision.

Mental Development

Every parent knows how fast their child is able to learn something and how long they can focus and complete a certain task. Music requires your child to be engaged both physically and mentally. It requires dedication from your child. You will need to assess the level of mental development of your child so that you are able to pick the right instrument for them. Let them start with musical instruments that are easy to play and as they develop intellectually you can introduce them to the more complicated ones.


Given these tips, you should be able to pick the right musical instrument for your child. One thing to remember is that the instrument you pick should always be the one your child loves. Do not let a teacher force your child into playing an instrument he/she resents just to fill up a position in a group. Make the right choice and you won’t even have to tell them to practice.

Distraction: “

“Traditional societies allowed children productive, sanctioned ways of exploring their limits—real limits, not the phony freedom of the playpen’s contained safety. Moreover, the consequences of their mistakes were real. The parent might say, “Don’t poke that beehive or the bees will sting you,” but would not through physical or verbal coercion try to prevent the child from doing it anyway. The result was that the parental voice gained an authority far beyond the fear-based coercive power today’s parents exercise; at the same time, the child learned that consequences are real.

John Taylor Gatto has observed that one of the unspoken lessons of school is that actions have no real consequences. Children are essentially not permitted to fail, not at anything real. Teachers and parents too tend to praise shoddy work in order to “boost self-esteem”, not understanding that the child herself knows the difference—at least in the beginning. Eventually, though, the child confuses praise from authority with the genuine article of satisfaction in the creative process, preparing for a life of doing it for the grade, for the client, for the paycheck. In this way, we early on become strangers to what we really love; our passions are lost to us and so we lose our passion for living. On the flip side of the coin, the absence of real punishments teaches children that socially destructive behavior has no consequences. But even punishment is only a substitute for real consequences.” read more on this subject: