A temper tantrum is your child showing you that they are unhappy with how something is going. Most of the time, a child does not know how to show their emotions, so they cry or throw a fit! A lot of the times, that is okay, but as a parent of 3, I do understand how embarrassing it can be for your child to throw a fit, especially if out in a public place!
You get those looks like you don’t know how to parent your child, from those people who most likely have dealt with the same thing, but think they are so much better than everyone else! Yeah, I have been there too!
Here are 5 tips to handle toddler tantrums!
1. Don’t lose your cool!
When you get or feel overwhelmed, step away from the problem! This can go for so many different things, so keep it in mind! When you get angry at your child for throwing a tantrum, and if you yell, that isn’t going to solve anything. That’s just showing your child that it’s OK to act that way! If you stay with your child during a tantrum because you don’t want him to start feeling abandoned! But then again, if you stay calm, even if you DO have to walk out of the room for a few minutes, it’s going to help your child stay calm!
2. Don’t overuse time-outs!
Time outs can help, but you don’t want to do it so often that your child gets used to them & doesn’t care whether about getting put in a time out! Don’t make time outs fun! You can put your child in time out by placing them in a boring, low traffic place in your house! Do it for about a minute for every year of age your child is & before long, you should have a child that will straighten up when you mention time out!
3. Make sure your child knows that you love him or her!
Once your child is done throwing their temper tantrum, make sure they know how much you love them! Talk to them about what they did wrong. Give them a quick hug and tell them you love them.
4. Watch for signs of over stress!
Being over stressed or overly tired can induce a temper tantrum. You don’t want to make them too stressed by doing too much activity in a short period of time, or making them overly tired!
5. Try to head off tantrums!
Pay attention to what might start a tantrum in your child! If he starts getting cranky when he’s hungry, carry snacks with you. If he starts showing signs of an oncoming tantrum, try to distract your child with something else! Point out things that are around, if you are at a park, maybe there’s a bird flying in the sky, point that out! Point out a leaf that has fallen out of a tree.”
And not the tantrum’s gone, why not chill a little and go out for a walk in the rain and dance in the puddles with your little ones.